Who’s in your crew?

Who are you surrounding yourself with?

Who are your friends?

Who are you letting speak into your life?

Are they people pushing you forward or holding you back?

Are they people who will encourage you in your purpose or are they pulling you down?

Are they people that are keeping you stagnant or are they driving you forward?

Who are you letting influence your destiny?

It is so important that we are aware of the people that we are surrounding ourselves with.

It is important that we are intentional about the relationships we have with other people. It’s very easy to slip into a routine and let the people who end up around us just be the people who end up being around us. But when you know that your life has purpose, and you know that purpose needs to be fulfilled, you can’t just let anyone who shows up in your life have influence in it. We have to make sure the people we surround ourselves with are people who are encouraging us to live out our purpose. We want people that will encourage us to keep going when we’re tired. We want people that aren’t envious of us but are cheering us on. We want people that are adamant about living out their purpose as well.

We all have ideas about where we want to be at a certain point in our lives. But the next stage of our lives is dependent on the decisions we are making during this stage. The decisions we make depend on how we think and the words that we speak. Who are you letting influence those thoughts and words?

When times are hard, are the people around you encouraging you in the word? Are you building each other up?  Or after you tell them about what you know God is going to do in you and through you, they shut you down and tell you it’s not possible? Are the people around you building your faith?

 I always put my life in this perspective. When I’m 80 years old and looking back on my life, what do I want it to look like? 

I know I want to live a life where I fulfilled the purpose that God had for me in every season of my life. I want to look back and know that I poured out everything I had and know that I was a good steward of the time and the resources I was given.

There’s so much that goes into fulfilling purpose, (especially making sure that God’s voice is the most important one in our lives!)  but one important aspect has to do with the company we keep.  God has a purpose for everyone single one of our lives. We should all desire to be used by God for every purpose he has for us in every season. Let’s make sure we’re surrounding ourselves with people that will encourage us to maximize our potential and walk in our purpose!

“Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Proverbs 13:20

Why Didn’t Anyone Tell Me?

Why didn’t anyone tell me THIS is what it feels like?

I’ve been around church people my whole life. I used to get so mad when my mom would make my younger brother and I go to church with her on Wednesday evenings. I remember how annoyed I was when I went to school the day after the blinky do shoes episode of My Wife and Kids aired, and everyone was talking about it. I was mad I didn’t get to watch it because I was at church. I couldn’t comprehend why people would willingly spend a week night in church. And then there were the night vigils! Those I really couldn’t understand. Whyyyyy would anyone want to be in church on a Friday till 2am? I remember many night vigils when my friends and I went down on our knees, faced our chairs, and pretended we were praying. We were actually taking a nap with our heads buried in our arms.

I remember car rides with my mom always meant worship music was the genre of choice. Sometimes when I was in the car with my mom or dad, I would find them mumbling to themselves. But they always insisted they were praying.

I remember learning the Sunday school mantra – read your bible and pray everyday. I learned all the major bible stories and many praise and worship songs. Even after leaving home, I continued to go to church and hold God in high esteem in my life. By high esteem, I mean calling on God mostly when I needed a crisis manager.

But now that I’ve come into this deep relationship God, I’m so confused why nobody told me THIS is what it feels like! It’s so much more than just going to church late at night, praying in the car and singing songs of worship. They were feeling something! Something deep down on the inside of them that cannot be explained. Something that made it a blessing to go to church at night. They were feeling the unexplainable peace and joy of God. The joy that won’t let any situation hold them captive. They were experiencing the presence of God. A presence that will have you waking up with the biggest smile on your face, simply because you know him.

Most times when we learn about God, we’re told so much about what God can do for us. How God can fix our problems. But there’s something so much deeper than that. THIS feeling. I really can’t explain it, but it is the most amazing, life transforming feeling ever. If someone would’ve told me THIS is what it’s like, I would’ve been here the second I came out of the womb.

I remember looking at people that were obsessed with God and thinking that their lives must be so boring. I wish they told me what they were experiencing! It’s more fun, more fulfilling and more amazing than anything this world has to offer.

Striving to live a life of worship to God in everything we do, rather than turning to God only when we need a crisis manager, leads to a far more fulfilling life. THIS feeling is a part of living a life of worship. THIS unexplainable feeling.

 God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in the Spirit and in truth. John 4:24

It’s Valentine’s Day, I’m Single, But I’m In Love!

So it’s that time of year again. It’s Valentine’s Day! Around this time of year I used to get kind of sad if I didn’t have a man to spend time with on Valentine’s day. I always wanted someone to be around just for the sake of having someone around.

But this year it’s completely different. I almost forgot about Valentine’s day altogether. This year I am filled with the greatest love I’ve ever known. Yup the love of God. And no it’s not an excuse because I don’t have a man this Valentine’s day, and I have to fall back on God. I’m truly filled with the greatest love I’ve ever known. In the past if someone asked me out for Valentine’s day, I would jump at the opportunity to have a date for the day. If it’s a guy that I can talk to and get along well with, I would’ve said yes without thinking twice. This year I got asked out for Valentine’s day but I decided to say no.

Not just because my worth isn’t in having someone around for Valentine’s day, but also because I’m filled with so much love from God. God truly fills my heart and I am in a place where I am content in my singleness. I’ve learned to love God and have God’s love be enough for me. So I’m waiting on God’s best for me, and no longer entertaining relationships that aren’t God’s best for me.

There’s a joy in my heart that I really can’t put into words. I wake up filled with joy, spend my day filled with joy, and go to sleep filled with joy. I can honestly say it’s the greatest thing I’ve ever experienced. It’s a joy that doesn’t change based on circumstances and situations, because I know the God I serve.

The void I tried to fill with a man could not be filled by a man. Only God can fill it and he has. That’s not to say I don’t wish I had a man sometimes. I do hope to get married one day and fulfill the purpose God has for me and my one day husband.  Some days I’m like “Ok hubby! You need to show up!”. But even with that, I always come back to focusing on God, and focusing on accomplishing the purpose God has called me to fulfill in this season. Even when I do get married my husband won’t take the place of God’s love in my heart. He’s not even capable of doing so. It’s so important come to a place of feeling complete and content with God’s love while single. That way when we do get married we’re not putting expectations on our spouses to give us the love that is only possible from God.

So yup! It’s Valentine’s day, I’m single but I’m very much in love!

Being Spirit Led In Fulfilling Our Purpose

I like to know everything. I want to know how things are going to turn out from the beginning to the end. I want to know if I start wearing my hair in a new way, if it’s a hairstyle I can still wear when I’m 50. I want to know if a guy and I start getting to know each other, if we’re going to get married or not. I want to know the full plan. So when God starts leading me in one direction, I like to fill in the rest of the story. For example, if God led me to move to a new city, I would start to plan my entire life out in that city. From getting married in that city, to buying a house, starting a business, and raising my kids there. But God might only want me in that city for 6 months.

I thought being spirit led meant God would lay out the plan and the purpose for my life, and I just had to make sure I spent time with God as he led me to fulfill the purpose he called me for. I thought I could just hold on to the plan for my life no matter what I go through because I know exactly where God is taking me. What I’ve come to realize is being led by God doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s going to layout the plan for me for the next 10 years and all I have do is follow it. Don’t get me wrong God can definitely tell you where he’s taking you. I’m also not saying that being spirit led doesn’t mean you shouldn’t plan for your life.

But being Spirit led is not always about knowing the detailed plan God has for your life. It’s an everyday thing. It’s not having to know the full story but still saying I will follow you. I will go wherever you lead me. I will fulfill the purpose you have called me to accomplish for today. That purpose might just be to have a conversation with someone. You never know what God could use that conversation for. Maybe that conversation could lead to your next breakthrough, maybe that conversation could stop the person from committing suicide, or maybe that conversation was just to put a smile on that person’s face for the day.

The point is we don’t always need to have the entire plan to be led by God to complete our purpose. Being spirit led is to be obedient in the day to day and taking the steps God has told you to take even if you don’t know the complete plan.