How’s Your Mental Health? Let’s Talk About It

Who is there to lift you up when things are tough? Who are the people that are there for you when life gets hard? Who do you talk to when God seems too distant to hear your cries?

I truly believe that there is nothing the love of God cannot overcome. But I also know that God has also given us each other. The two greatest commandments Jesus gave to us, are to love the Lord our God with all our heart, all our mind, and all our soul, and to love our neighbors as we love ourselves. It means that this life isn’t supposed to be just me and God and I’m good. It’s important that we are plugged into a community where we can support and lift each other up. But what do you do when you have that community and no one seems capable of understanding your problems? What do you do with the overwhelming and overbearing baggage? What do you do when you want to, when you NEED to seek professional help?

When we’re physically ill, we go and see a doctor. If a friend of ours has cancer, we wouldn’t let them sit on the couch and pray until they’re healed. We’d tell them to go get treated and pray all through the treatment process. Likewise, we need to do the same with our mental health. Depression and anxiety can no longer just be attacks of the enemy that need to be prayed away. It’s time we start taking our mental health more seriously and also encourage those around us to do so as well. God has given us each other to lean on as a community. We’re an interdependent specie and it can’t just be about me and God. There’s a community aspect to it as well.

This is why I love the psyndup platform. It’s a platform to discuss mental health issues and to find help for those issues, in a place where mental health isn’t taken too seriously. It’s not only in Christian circles but also in some cultural circles where the lack of seriousness surrounding mental health is a problem. But no matter what religion or culture is in place, we need to make sure that our mental health is taken as seriously as our physical health.

We also have to remember that there is another side. There’s the side when we come out of the struggle victorious. There’s the side when we’ve dealt with the issue, and are put in a better position to help others because of our experiences. Things may be tough now, and it may seem like there is no way out, but it can, and it does get better.

I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18   

 

It’s Valentine’s Day, I’m Single, But I’m In Love!

So it’s that time of year again. It’s Valentine’s Day! Around this time of year I used to get kind of sad if I didn’t have a man to spend time with on Valentine’s day. I always wanted someone to be around just for the sake of having someone around.

But this year it’s completely different. I almost forgot about Valentine’s day altogether. This year I am filled with the greatest love I’ve ever known. Yup the love of God. And no it’s not an excuse because I don’t have a man this Valentine’s day, and I have to fall back on God. I’m truly filled with the greatest love I’ve ever known. In the past if someone asked me out for Valentine’s day, I would jump at the opportunity to have a date for the day. If it’s a guy that I can talk to and get along well with, I would’ve said yes without thinking twice. This year I got asked out for Valentine’s day but I decided to say no.

Not just because my worth isn’t in having someone around for Valentine’s day, but also because I’m filled with so much love from God. God truly fills my heart and I am in a place where I am content in my singleness. I’ve learned to love God and have God’s love be enough for me. So I’m waiting on God’s best for me, and no longer entertaining relationships that aren’t God’s best for me.

There’s a joy in my heart that I really can’t put into words. I wake up filled with joy, spend my day filled with joy, and go to sleep filled with joy. I can honestly say it’s the greatest thing I’ve ever experienced. It’s a joy that doesn’t change based on circumstances and situations, because I know the God I serve.

The void I tried to fill with a man could not be filled by a man. Only God can fill it and he has. That’s not to say I don’t wish I had a man sometimes. I do hope to get married one day and fulfill the purpose God has for me and my one day husband.  Some days I’m like “Ok hubby! You need to show up!”. But even with that, I always come back to focusing on God, and focusing on accomplishing the purpose God has called me to fulfill in this season. Even when I do get married my husband won’t take the place of God’s love in my heart. He’s not even capable of doing so. It’s so important come to a place of feeling complete and content with God’s love while single. That way when we do get married we’re not putting expectations on our spouses to give us the love that is only possible from God.

So yup! It’s Valentine’s day, I’m single but I’m very much in love!